90: Is Conflict Totally Unnecessary?

My “Words of Wisdom“(W.O.W.) for today from Ram Dass‘s site, are by the late Wayne Dyer……
“Conflict cannot survive without your participation”       ~Wayne Dyer~




This put me in mind of the song sung many years ago by Kenny Rogers.….

So… I put together an instrumental version of the tune, and below it, are the lyrics……

Link to tune:-  

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               COWARD OF THE COUNTY

Everyone considered him the coward of the county… He’d never stood one single time to prove the county wrong.
 His mama named him Tommy, but folks just called him yellow.
 Something always told me they were reading Tommy wrong.

He was only ten years old when his father died in prison. I looked after Tommy, ’cause he was my brother’s son.
 I still recall the final words my brother said to Tommy… “Son, my life is over, but yours has just begun”.

“Promise me, son, not to do the things I’ve done..
 Walk away from trouble if you can.
 It won’t mean you’re weak if you turn the other cheek..
 I hope you’re old enough to understand;
 Son, you don’t have to fight to be a man”.

There’s someone for everyone, and Tommy’s love was Becky.. 
In her arms, he didn’t have to prove he was a man.
 One day while he was working, the Gatlin boys came calling..
They took turns at Becky, ‘n’ there was three of them.

Tommy opened up the door, and saw his Becky crying..
 The torn dress, the shattered look was more than he could stand..
 He reached above the fireplace, and took down his daddy’s picture..
 As the tears fell on his daddy’s face, he heard these words again….

“Promise me, son, not to do the things I’ve done
… Walk away from trouble if you can.
Now, it won’t mean you’re weak if you turn the other cheek;
 I hope you’re old enough to understand… 
Son, you don’t have to fight to be a man”.

The Gatlin boys just laughed at him when he walked in the bar-room..
 One of them got up and met him halfway ‘cross the floor.
When Tommy turned around they said, “Hey look, old yeller’s leaving”,
 But you could’ve heard a pin drop when Tommy stopped and locked the door.

Twenty years of crawling was bottled up inside him..
He wasn’t holding nothin’ back, he let ’em have it all.
 When Tommy left the bar-room, not a Gatlin boy was standing..
 He said, “This one’s for Becky”, as he watched the last one fall.

“I promised you, Dad, not to do the things you’ve done..
 I walk away from trouble when I can.
 Now please don’t think I’m weak, I didn’t turn the other cheek,
 And papa, I sure hope you understand..
Sometimes you gotta fight when you’re a man”

Everyone considered him the coward of the county…..


And this, in turn, prompted the question posed in the title of this article. 

What do YOU think?


88: How Do I Know if I am on The Right Path?

N.B…. I’ve added inverted commas to “God” in the picture, just to emphasise that we all have our own equally valid conceptions of who/what, he/it, is. 

Finding the right path and knowing if you are on it, follows directly on from yesterday’s article….

How do I find the right path?

How do I know if I am on the right path?

Questions, questions, questions!… which preoccupy our minds and actually hinder the progress of effective living. 

Attachment to the “need to know” how to find the right path, or whether we are on the right path, can really hinder our journey, and prove counterproductive to our effectiveness. 

Don’t spend thought, worry or preoccupation on such things! 

Just live with love and genuine compassion for others, and ‘how to find the right path’, or ‘whether we have found it’, ceases to be the (unnecessary) priority that it so often is in our lives. 

The footsteps of so many parents are often dogged with the worry as to whether they are on the right parenting path, usually to the detriment of all those involved in the process!  Just love your children, and let all your actions flow from there, and the need to worry about getting it right, simply ceases to exist. 

In my opinion, the same applies to any path of life. Agreed??


87: How do You Know if You Are Being Yourself?

The short answer in my view, is; “You don’t!… Or.. You don’t need to know!”

I came across this question the other day on the ‘Quora’ site. So I read the words of the person who had asked the question, and then added my own two penn’orth to the Comments. 

Here are the thoughts of the post originator…

“Getting to know yourself is a journey. One that lasts until you die.

It’s uncanny to have a concrete image of who you are in your mind.

I once took out a piece of paper and wrote down about things that define me. I was struggling. I thought I had myself all figured out, but I didn’t. So instead of searching for who I am, I came up with a better alternative:

Trying new things. Even small things like saying hi to a stranger, or staying disciplined in my workout routine. The more I keep on exploring, the more I get to know about myself.

But to answer your question, I personally am being myself when I’m exploring, when I’m doing things I want to do. That could be communicating with a stranger on the street, trying out a new food, or persisting on working out.

Because I know that those are things I want to do. They make me healthy and happy.

When I feel that way, I know I’m being myself.

Yeah, that’s me. Good job me”

And here are my own comments……

“My contention is, that you don’t know when you are being yourself, because at that time, you’re not preoccupied with needing or wanting to know.

The moment that you obsess about whether you are being yourself, you couldn’t be further from it!

Just ‘be’, and ‘be’ with kindness and compassion.

Because the moment you think, “Am I being the true ‘me’ “… you move further away from that state rather than closer to it!

Self-consciousness creates anything but the ‘real you’! Hence the biblical expression: “Don’t let the right hand know what the left hand is doing.”

You need to be open to everything, yet attached to nothing…. not even the wish to know when you are being your true self!

When it’s not on your mind.. you’re usually the closest to being your true self than at any other time.”    ~agr~

The view of a writer on the power of unselfconsciousness…... In my view this holds true to most things in life.  The moment we become conscious of ourselves in any activity, is the moment we reduce its effectiveness.   This is what Christ was talking about when he said, “….don’t let the right hand know what the left is doing”. The moment we become conscious of ourselves in the equation of service with compassion, is the moment that the compassion ceases to be objective and hence no longer ‘real’; because it then becomes more about ‘us’ than ‘them’.

What would be your comment/contribution? 

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